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The New Year Brings Divorce Month

divorce, Wheaton divorce attorneysJanuary has earned the nickname of “Divorce Month” because data shows that divorce filings begin to considerably increase in frequency during this time. During January, the number of divorce filings is one-third more than average. The rate of filings remains high through February and March as well.

Family and relationship experts offer a few possible reasons for this trend. One explanation is that couples considering divorcing wait until after the holidays to do so. It can be difficult to explain to friends and relatives why your significant other is not with you at the holiday party or family gathering. Splitting up during the holidays is even more challenging if a couple has children. Many parents do not want to spoil Christmas, Hanukkah, or other important holidays for their children with news of the impending divorce. If you have decided to divorce this January, there are a few steps you can take to protect your interests and make the process go as smoothly as possible.

Protect Your Finances

If you have decided to end your marriage, it is smart to close any joint bank accounts. Doing so does not mean that you believe your spouse will run off with all the marital savings, it just means you are taking the first step towards independence. During a divorce, neither spouse should be making large unexpected purchases or transfers, but separating finances will give both members of the couple protection against this and peace of mind. Make sure that you wait for all outstanding checks to clear and to change the bank account information for any reoccurring automatic payments. Many financial professionals also encourage divorcing couples to pay off and cancel joint credit cards.

Update Your Estate Plan

If you are planning to divorce your spouse, you do not want to continue to have him or her as an executor or power of attorney. Update any powers of attorney or health care directives that give your spouse the right to act on your behalf should you become incapacitated due to illness or injury. Beneficiaries on life insurance policies and retirement accounts should also be updated. You may want to wait until after the divorce is finalized to make these changes in certain circumstances. Some divorce agreements disallow individuals from changing beneficiaries if, for example, the court has ordered them to maintain life insurance as collateral for support obligations. Bring you homeowners, auto and health policies up to date so they reflect your new single status too.

Put Your Support Structure in Place

Divorce is said to be the second-most stressful life event a person can endure, as it can be devastating to end a marriage that you thought would last your whole life. Therefore, it is imperative that you do not try to get through this difficult time alone. Reach out to friends and family and consider employing the help of a therapist. If your divorce will be financially complicated, you may want to seek advice from a financial advisor as well. There is no shame in asking for help through your divorce.

Trustworthy, Experienced Legal Aide

If you are going through a divorce, you need legal counsel that will protect your rights and help you achieve the positive outcome you deserve. Contact an experienced DuPage County family law attorney to discuss your options and to get the assistance you need. Call 630-871-1002 for a free consultation today.

 

Sources:

https://www.cnbc.com/2017/01/18/its-january-also-known-as-divorce-month-heres-how-to-cope.html

https://www.marketwatch.com/story/divorce-filings-jump-by-one-third-in-january-2015-01-05

Preparation Is the Key to a Smoother Divorce

divorce, Wheaton divorce attorneysThe process of divorce is unlike other many legal matters in that it is deeply personal. A person may spend years or even decades deciding if they should file for divorce or not. Couples may try marriage counseling, trial separations, or endure hours of uncomfortable conversations before reaching the decision to divorce. With all of this emotional turmoil and stress, some individuals seeking a divorce may jump into it without properly preparing. However, taking time to ready yourself and formulate a plan before starting the process can save a great deal of unnecessary stress. There is no way to ensure that your divorce will go perfectly with no difficulties at all, but there are some things you can do to prepare for the divorce process.

Prepare Yourself Financially

Most people who divorce experience a dramatic change in their financial status. They may be forced to live on less income than they previously did, or they may now be responsible for spousal support or child support payments. Furthermore, in many marriages, one of the spouses was in charge of the household finances more so than the other. This means that many individuals who get divorced will need to learn to pay bills, make financial decisions, create a budget, pay taxes or face other unfamiliar territory. Do not be afraid to seek assistance with these challenges. Some people, especially those with complicated financial situations, choose to meet with a financial adviser in addition to an attorney when filing for divorce.

Prepare Yourself Emotionally

There is no way around it. Divorcing a spouse who you hoped to spend the rest of your life with can be devastating. Even if the marriage has been struggling for years and the split was expected, it is still painful. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family, or consider seeing a therapist. Allow yourself to grieve the end of the marriage. Accept your emotions as they come and never be afraid to ask for help managing them. Some who get divorced find comfort in a divorce support group or in getting involved in other social gatherings. Although the process can be painful, there is light at the end of the tunnel.

We Are Ready To Help

Our experienced Wheaton family law attorneys are knowledge and compassionate, and will help you reach your goals and fight for your rights during a divorce. Contact the Andrew Cores Family Law Group to discuss your situation today. Call 630-871-1002 for a free consultation at any of our three convenient office locations.

 

Sources:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/having-sex-wanting-intimacy/201608/4-expert-tips-emotionally-preparing-divorce

https://www.usatoday.com/story/money/personalfinance/lifestages/2012/10/08/financial-tips-divorce/1584063/

Is Your Spouse a Narcissist?

narcissist, Wheaton divorce attorneyDoes your spouse often attempt to control or manipulate you in a malicious way? Does he or she dismiss your feelings as unimportant or nonsensical? Do you ever feel like you are losing your sense of self and only living to please your demanding and unreasonable spouse? If you, you may be married to a narcissist.

The term narcissist technically refers to those with a mental illness called Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) but is often also used to describe those individuals who have some of the characteristics of a person with NPD. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders defines the criteria for an NPD diagnosis. Individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorders often exhibit behaviors such as:

  • Having an Exaggerated Sense of Self-Importance: Narcissists are often very full of themselves. They believe that their accomplishments are more important than those of others and that they are superior to those around them. They have grandiose perceptions of themselves and do not appreciate when others do not share these perceptions. This often manifests into behavior like making every conversation about himself or herself, or craving to be the center of attention at all times. Narcissists may also indulge in unrealistic fantasies of success, fame, power, or wealth.
  • Needing Constant Admiration and Approval: Those with narcissist tendencies often believe that they are better than those around them but, paradoxically, also crave the attention and approval of other people. A narcissist has a very difficult time accepting criticism and can even become enraged by it. He or she will often tout his or her accomplishments (either real or imagined) and become offended if those around him or her do not respond how he or she wanted.
  • Having a Strong Sense of Entitlement: Someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder will demand favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations regardless of how unreasonable they are. Narcissists believe that they are entitled to special treatment or privileges even if they did not earn them.
  • Manipulating Others to Get What They Want: Narcissists are unapologetically exploitative of others and will take advantage of others to get their way. This can unfortunately lead to emotional or physical abuse. They tend to lack empathy and do not feel regret for manipulative or cruel behavior.

Although being married to a narcissist is challenging, it does not automatically mean that the marriage will not last. That being said, many marriages involving a narcissist are not healthy, especially if narcissistic behavior goes unchecked.

Divorcing a narcissist can be particularly challenging, but an experienced DuPage County divorce attorney can help prevent your spouse from manipulating the proceedings. Call 630-871-1002 for a free consultation today.

 

Sources:

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/divorced-moms/signs-you-married-a-narcissist_b_9132548.html

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/stop-caretaking-the-borderline-or-narcissist/201306/are-you-married-narcissist