Although we rarely think of it this way, marriage and, consequently, divorce are business decisions as much as they are personal decisions. When a marriage ends, it is not only the spouses who separate but also the lives they have created together. This includes the home which they share together, their property, assets, debts and more. Undoing a marriage through divorce can be a tricky process. If you are planning to divorce, make sure to avoid these classic mistakes.
Overestimating Your Future Income
As the old saying goes, “It is better to be safe than sorry.” When you are deciding how the marriage will end, try to be conservative when picturing your life as a single person. Sometimes people overestimate what they will be able to afford on their own. For example, they may want to stay in the family home for sentimental reasons, but are not ready for the burden of the mortgage payments. If you are the lower-earning spouse, it is possible that you will receive spousal maintenance payments as part of your divorce settlement, but this is far from guaranteed.
Refusing Offers of Help
In many cases, people who get divorced are hesitant to let others know. Even though 40-50 percent of marriages end in divorce today, there is still a stigma attached with divorce. If you are planning to divorce, resist the urge to isolate yourself. Friends and family will probably ask how they can help during this difficult time in your life; do not be too proud to take them up on their offer. Something as simple as going to the movies with a friend can do wonders for your emotional state.
Thinking with Emotions
It is completely understandable that you will feel emotions such as anger, resentment, despair, and even vengeance during a divorce– especially if your marriage ended on bad terms. However, acting on these feelings can cause the divorce process to be much longer and more expensive than it needs to be. Some couples argue endlessly about trivial issues during divorce negotiations because they are more interested in hurting each other than making real progress.
Not Hiring a Competent Attorney
If you are getting divorced, do not place your future in the hands of an unqualified family law attorney. The experienced DuPage County divorce attorneys of Andrew Cores Family Law Group are prepared to help you navigate even the most complicated divorce. To schedule your free initial consultation, call 630-871-1002.