For many people, divorce is an uncomfortable topic. In the 1980s, the divorce rate was as high as 40 percent in the United States. While this rate has been on the decline over the past few decades, this is small comfort to those who are going through the difficult process of ending their marriage. There are many factors that may make you want to leave your spouse, and informing your partner about the desire to get a divorce is never an easy task.
Why Do People Get Divorced?
In 2018, the most recent year for which data is available, there were more than 780,000 divorces or annulments in the United States. While infidelity is a common reason couples choose to end their marriage, many people are able to repair their relationship through marriage counseling. Here are some other factors that tend to contribute to couples getting divorced:
Getting married too young - Research shows that the “best” age to get married is between 28 and 32. People who get married before the age of 25 are more likely to get a divorce.
Money - Financial burdens can cause stress in any relationship, especially if they occur because of one partner's lack of responsibility.
Growing apart - Falling out of love with one’s partner is another common reason for divorce. People change over time, and if spouses become too out of sync, they may start to think about ending the relationship and moving on.
Substance abuse - Drug and alcohol abuse does not just have physical effects, but it can also put a major strain on a relationship. If children are involved, divorce may be the best way to protect them from the effects of substance abuse.
Telling Your Spouse You Want a Divorce
Whether the two of you have grown apart, or there is a bigger, more specific issue at hand, you have likely put a lot of thought into the difficult decision to get a divorce. It is important not to blindside your spouse about your choice or bring it up for the first time during a heated argument. While there is no perfect time to say, “I want a divorce,” it is best to be calm, serious, and thoughtful about the topic when you do bring it up. You may want to talk about why you are unhappy and why you believe divorce is the best path for you. Being respectful during the first stages of getting a divorce can go a long way toward keeping the divorce process civil.
When planning to discuss divorce, pick a time and place to meet and talk about the future without interruptions. If you are concerned about how your spouse will react to the news, or if you are worried about your safety, pick a public place to discuss your thoughts or enlist the help of a neutral third party.
Contact a Wheaton Family Law Attorney
If you are considering a divorce for any reason, meeting with an experienced DuPage County divorce lawyer from Andrew Cores Family Law Group can provide clarity before the conversation with your spouse. We will help you understand your rights, the legal issues that must be addressed, and the best way to proceed throughout the divorce process. Set up a free consultation by calling our office at 630-871-1002 today.