It is estimated that more than one in three women and one in four men in this country will experience physical violence, stalking, and/or rape by an intimate partner. Intimate partner violence affects more than 12 million people every year. When domestic violence is part of an intimate partner relationship, it can be very difficult for the victim to leave, but when the couple is married, it can be even harder because leaving usually involves legally ending the marriage.
It is important to remember that not all domestic violence involves physical injuries. There are other forms of domestic abuse that one spouse can inflict on the other and these types of abuse sometimes continue long after the divorce has been finalized.
When one spouse inflicts a steady stream of harsh insults and threats, this is considered emotional abuse. Insults and threats are obvious types of emotional abuse, but other types can be just as injurious to the victim. It is not uncommon for the abusive spouse to use manipulation and guilt to get the victim spouse to do what they want. Threats of leaving or taking the children away – when they have no intention of doing either – are examples of the tactics an emotionally abusive spouse may use.
Verbal abuse is similar to emotional abuse, except the abuser relies more on insulting and humiliating the victimized spouse instead of manipulating them. Examples are telling degrading jokes or insults about the spouse in front of other people, including their children. In some cases, the abuser even encourages the children to engage in verbal abuse with them.
When a spouse controls who their spouse can socialize with, talk to, or controls the activities they can engage in, how much they can spend, or even when they can leave the house, this is called controlling abuse. Many controlling abuser spouses work to isolate the victim spouse from their family and friends.
In healthy relationships, even if one spouse is the one who pays the bills, there is a general agreement as to any financial decisions that are made. However, when one spouse controls all the money, forbidding the victimized spouse to make any purchases without their permission or even have any money of their own, this is a clear case of financial abuse.
Contact a DuPage County Family Lawyer for Help
If you are a victim of domestic violence, there are legal options for you to get the help you need. A dedicated Wheaton, IL family law attorney can provide legal guidance and advice throughout the divorce process. Call Andrew Cores Family Law Group at 630-871-1002 to schedule a free consultation.