Divorce poses a particularly difficult set of challenges. Often spoken of as even more difficult than the death of a spouse, a divorce can divide an Illinois family, strain parental relationships with children, and put former spouses under great financial stress. Because divorce also involves separating from a life partner, feelings of loneliness and grief are very common - even if you are convinced that getting divorced was the right decision. While nothing but time can completely allow the hurt of divorce to heal over, here are four tips for moving past divorce more quickly.
Find a Great Therapist
Finding a therapist who works with your personality and therapy style can be difficult, especially if you are already down and not feeling very motivated. But a great therapist can be immensely helpful in processing feelings after a divorce. He or she can also help you recognize patterns of behavior in yourself that may have contributed to the breakdown of your marriage so you have a better chance of a healthy relationship next time you find someone special.
Anyone who has gotten divorced can tell you that friends and family will all have advice. Sometimes this is nice and can feel supportive, and other times it may put you under even more stress. Meditation is a great way to shut out the noise and focus on your inner self. Many divorcees find that meditation has helped them realize that even the most strongly felt emotions are temporary and that trying to control the outcome of every event is not only ineffective but counterproductive.
Grief can play funny tricks on our minds, making us believe things we know intellectually cannot be true - that we are worthless, that we will never be happy again, that we may always be alone. While exercise is not a panacea for grief, the hormones our brains release when we move our bodies are essential for feeling good again. Particularly when we exercise outside, our brains and bodies can focus on something besides our grief so we can feel better, eat better, and sleep better.
Discover Yourself Again
While this advice may seem cliche, it is true that many spouses lose an element of their individuality in their marriage. Marriage, especially when children are involved, is a lot of hard work and spouses may not have had time to themselves for many years. Rather than focusing on how alone you feel, you may want to explore some hobbies you used to enjoy or try something new. There are so many classes, meetups, and online tutorials available that you can learn virtually anything.
Meet with a Wheaton, IL Divorce Lawyer
Divorce is never easy, but with the help of a compassionate Wheaton divorce attorney, you can get through this challenging period and move forward with your life. To learn more about how the skilled team at Andrew Cores Family Law Group can put their experience to work for you, call us today at 630-871-1002 and schedule a confidential consultation.