The Holmes-Rahe Life Stress Inventory ranks the emotional burden of difficult life events. On the list are things like the loss of a loved one, getting fired from a job, and changing careers. Divorce is ranked as the second-most traumatic life event a person can experience. Only the death of a spouse is considered more emotionally-taxing than divorce. If you are going through a divorce, or soon will be, it is imperative that you take time to look after your own health—both physically and emotionally. There is no perfect way to manage the trauma caused by divorce, but experts do have suggestions for keeping yourself as healthy as possible during divorce.
Accept That There Is No Right Way to Feel
Everyone experiences divorce differently. Some individuals are consumed by rage and must constantly check their anger while handling the end of their marriage. Others experience sadness and grief akin to suffering the death of a loved one. Still others feel a great sense of relief or even joy at the thought of ending an unhappy marriage. Whatever your feelings or reactions to the end of your marriage, know that it is okay to feel them. You will probably not experience divorce the same way your friends, family members, or co-workers do. If you are struggling to handle the intense emotions which go along with divorce, guidance from a therapist or counselor can be valuable.
Do Not Be Afraid to Seek Help
There is no shame in getting help or support during your divorce. Some people, especially those who generally keep their personal life private, may be hesitant to reach out to friends and family for comfort. However, reaching out to a trusted friend can dramatically decrease the emotional burden of going through a divorce. Some people experiencing traumatic life events also find comfort in support groups or religious gatherings.
Explore Your Passions
One silver lining of divorce is that you will have much more time to yourself. Use this newfound freedom to explore your interests. Have you always wanted to take up fly fishing or yoga? Now is your chance. Experts agree that keeping busy and resisting the urge to isolate are important steps in the recovery process. You may even be able to expand your social circle and make new friends in the process.
Divorce Attorneys Serving Kane County and DuPage County
If you are getting divorced, The Andrew Cores Family Law Group is here to help. Our experienced Wheaton divorce attorneys have the skills and knowledge to help you make the divorce process go as smoothly as possible. Call us at 630-871-1002 today.