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Can I Pay Child Support Without Going Through the Court System?

child support, Wheaton child support lawyerThere are many different reasons that a child may require additional financial support from a parent. If a child’s parents were not married or together when the child was born, child support helps distribute the child’s expenses between both parents. This helps safeguard against one parent being saddled with the entirety of the financial burden associated with raising a child.

Child support also acts as a way of holding parents’ accountable for paying their fair share of costs like tuition, child care, housing, food, clothing, and others. The courts can help parents reach a child support arrangement which is reasonable and fair for both parents. The court also has the authority to intervene when a parent is not living up to the agreed upon child support commitment.

Some unmarried parents try to arrange an informal child support plan. They exchange money intended to help support the child outside of the rules and regulations of the courts. Unfortunately, this often results in unreliable child support payments, support nonpayment, ineffective parent-to-parent communication, and a generous amount of stress for everyone involved.

Avoiding the Formal Court System Can Result in Uncertainty and Vulnerability for Both Parties

Going to court can be a tedious task. It understandable that many parents look for ways to pay child support without getting a court-mandated child support order. However, parents who simply hand the other parent a check or envelope of money put themselves at risk in several ways. Firstly, if you are making payments to your child’s other parent outside of a court order, there is no way to legally prove these payments were made. Even if you are using a check or money order which leaves a paper trail, these payments cannot be considered child support in the future. In the future, this parent could take you to court alleging that you are not supporting your child. The parent can claim that the payments were made for another reason unrelated to the child’s expenses.

Informal Child Support Payments Can Be Ambiguous

Another concern for parents making child support payments outside of the system is that the recipient can begin to demand more and more money. Some parents tragically use their children as pawns in order to get what they want. If you have been casually giving the other parent money and he or she claims to now need twice as much money for some new child-related expense, there is no way for you to verify this. Alternatively, child support arrangements made through the court can only be changed if a verified significant life event necessitates it.

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At Andrew Cores Family Law Group, we provide experienced, dependable legal counsel regarding child support and child custody, spousal support (alimony), fathers’ rights, and more. To schedule a free initial consultation with one of our experienced Illinois family law attorneys call 630-871-1002 today.




Will I Have to Pay Spousal Maintenance?

maintenance, Wheaton divorce lawyersSometimes referred to as alimony, spousal maintenance or spousal support refers to payments which one spouse pays to the other to help them transition to life as a single person. Maintenance payments are generally made by the spouse with the higher income and paid to the spouse with the lower income.

The purpose of spousal support is to restrict any one-sided negative financial effects of a divorce by providing an ongoing source of revenue to a spouse who earns less than his or her partner. The rationale behind spousal support is that one spouse—often the wife, but stay-at-home husbands are more common than ever—may have chosen to sacrifice a career to care for the family. Someone who has been out of the workforce and suddenly gets divorced will need time to acquire new skills and employment support himself or herself. Maintenance may also be appropriate to help an economically-disadvantaged spouse maintain a similar standard of living as compared to the one established in the marriage.

Who Pays Spousal Support?

The short answer to, “Will I have to pay spousal support?” is “It depends.” The Illinois Marriage and Dissolution of Marriage Act contains the spousal support statutes on which such decisions are based. However, courts have leeway when deciding who gets spousal support and how much it will be. This is much different than child support payments, which are calculated by a more ridged set of parameters in Illinois. When deciding whether a spouse will receive support, the courts consider a number of factors, including:

  • The length of the marriage;
  • The standard of living established in the marriage;
  • The physical condition of each spouse including their ages, health, and disabilities;
  • The emotional and mental state of each spouse;
  • The length of time that the recipient of support would reasonably need to become financially self-sufficient;
  • Contributions made by either spouse to the career and earning capacity of the other; and
  • The ability of the paying spouse to make maintenance payments.

Spousal maintenance is generally meant to be rehabilitative in nature. Many support orders are temporary, lasting until the recipient spouse can get on his or her feet financially. Sometimes, the divorce decree does not specify a spousal support termination date. If this is the case, payments must continue until the court orders them to cease. A payer spouse is not required to pay spousal support to a spouse who remarries.

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If you getting divorced and are worried about how spousal maintenance payments will affect your life, the dedicated Wheaton family law attorneys at the Andrew Cores Family Law Group are here to help. To set up a free, confidential consultation, call 630-871-1002 today.




Study Links Testosterone to Relationship Protecting Behavior

testosterone, Wheaton family law attorneysWhen two people enter into a relationship, the quality of that relationship is typically defined by how each person treats the other. Outside factors such as finances, children, and employment-related stresses certainly play a role, but the behavior of the individuals involved is usually the determining factor in whether the relationship lasts or not.

Science has long studied the link between hormones and human behavior, particularly in regard to how such hormones affect sexual relationships. High levels of testosterone in men, for example, have been regularly linked to attracting sexual partners and more aggressive sexual behavior. Relatively little research, however, has been conducted to examine how testosterone levels may affect other aspects of human sexual relationships. A new study from a research team in Canada sought to do just that.

A New Look at Long-Term Relationships

A group of researchers from the Nipissing University in North Bay, Ontario, decided to examine the relationship between male testosterone levels and long-term relationships. Lead author and associate professor Steven Arnocky observed that increasing knowledge in this area is important “because unlike most other mammalian species, humans generally pair-bond.” While we may not mate for life, he said, we do “form relatively long-term mating relationships” and two-parent child-rearing situations.

The team measured the testosterone levels of more than 100 male undergraduates and then asked them to answer questions about how they protect a sexual relationship. Protective behavior was divided into two categories: mate retention and intrasexual competition. Mate retention was further broken down into benefit provisioning behavior—such as doing nice things or buying gifts for a partner—and cost infliction—such as monopolizing a partner’s social life and threatening other men to stay away.

The study found an indirect relationship between higher levels of testosterone and mate retention behaviors. The relationship was more significant and direct, however, between high testosterone and intrasexual competitiveness. Feelings of competitiveness against other men could prompt mate retention behaviors, but usually in the form of cost inflicting. In other words, higher levels of testosterone were linked with behaviors that focused on the relationship in terms of other men, rather than the subject’s partner.

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Ironically, certain types of cost infliction behaviors can have a negative impact on the relationship that they are intended to protect. For example, a man who monopolizes his partner’s time to prevent her from having a social life of her own can be smothering and unhealthy, regardless of the intentions. When these types of actions cause a relationship to break down, a divorce may become the couple’s only option.

If you are considering a divorce, an experienced DuPage County family law attorney can provide the guidance you need. Call 630-871-1002 for a free consultation at the Andrew Cores Family Law Group today.